Hubby went to baseball with us today. When we got there I noticed we were sitting on the "other team's side" not a biggie but a wierd thing to do. At any rate, there was a mom there. She was undoubtly there watching her son. But then she had a little girl go to her and a set of girl twins also... Four.
I'm not sure that I've mentioned it before but my husband has the power to read my mind. NO, Really He DOES. I started thinking..."FOUR kids"... "holy crap!" "She's suprisingly put together!" "How in God's name does she do that?" "What does she drive? I bet its some sort of freaking cargo van or something!" "I should go ask her what it's like" My husband noticed I was looking at her/them and said "Why don't you go ask her how she does it? Tell her you're thinking of having another but you're scared." Well, Why didn't I?? I dunno. Thought of it, YES! Ready to do it, Not quite.
After a little back and forth between Hubby and me - - - "She's got all of her hair!" "Yes, honey she does" etc. I worked the nerve up to go talk to her... not really the nerve but just what was I going to say to this "Mommy Goddess" ?? Just as I stood to walk over two boys walked over to her and one said "Mom.... (after that I didn't hear anything but the sound of my jaw pop as my chin fell)" so, I'm counting... cause I lost count...
- son playing ball (I think) probably 10 or 11 yo
- daughter, maybe 4 or 5
- twin A, 3
- twin B, 3
- .... another Boy, maybe 11 or 12
- .... another Boy, maybe 10 or 11
I think my mouth was still opened as I put my foot back in place on the ground and turned to look at my husband in disbelief. WHAT THE??? SIX - is that SIX kids she's got.... He laughed.
More back and forth.... "Are they hers?" .... "They could be"..."Maybe some of them are foster kids?"... "Maybe" ... "Maybe one of these boys and the boy playing ball is another set of twins?" .... "Maybe"..... "What do they drive a cargo van or something?" "Honey, Be nice." ..... "What does He do, Does she work?" "She probably can't" "Go talk to her"
Finally 10 minutes later.. I go over... ask her questions... how many are hers?... "only 5" (ONLY 5... my mouth is still hanging open in my mind) How do you do that? "I'm very laid back." (to pop out 5 kids you must be laid back) I've got two and I'd like to have another.. but I'm scared to death. "The jump from 1 to 2 is the biggest.. I think the more you have the easier it gets" (Did she just say that)... She seemed nice, calm. Like my hubby only a woman. Hubby is a very laid back, everything will be fine kind of guy. I wish I was more like that... maybe that's why we found each other.
I can't help but to wonder - should I have another? or two more?... I'm young. well, sort of. I'm not getting any younger that's for sure.
After talking with the "Mommy Goddess" today I wondered. Punk is almost 11. LuLu is almost 2. They are from different marriages. Does that mean they are two first kids. You know how they label you with your birth order.. Yet another label ... as if there aren't enough. But since they are from two different dads does that mean that I really haven't had a 2nd child yet. Punk has his own personality and isn't very interested in helping me with LuLu .. but if I have another child soon... she would have the benefit (if you can call it a benefit) of being a older sister...
Comments, Questions, Ideas, Remarks??? Mommy's ...I'm listening!